Dean of the Faculty of Health Sciences, European University of Lefke (EUL). Prof. Dr. Şengül Hablemitoğlu made statements on “Parent-Child Relationship in the Pandemic Process”.
“The corona pandemic process was both a questioning of being a parent and a difficult time. It affects our health and economic life as well as it has shaken social life. This situation seems to continue for a while. Parents with children from all age groups who continue their education had a hard time in this process. “It was necessary to be a different parent, especially to make changes to the dates of both university and high school transition exams, to continue the education online, and to spend a long time with the children in the home environment of families.” Hablemitoğlu stated that the biggest problem was that the students and parents who will take the university exam experience the biggest problem. Stated that they have difficulties in conducting and motivating in general anxiety environment.
Hablemitoğlu: It is important to observe children instead of getting involved, letting them do what they want
“I would like to remind parents of something first. Hablemitoğlu said that the rhythm of each individual is different, whether it is a child or an adult. ”It is a completely different thing to be able to communicate with the alpha generation born after 2010, and therefore, even if our children take their parents as a model, the flow of their lives will be different because they will interpret life from their own perspectives. Stating that education is likely to be online in the coming months and this will change home life, Hablemitoğlu stated that parents can start work by exploring their children’s life. “It is important to observe children instead of getting involved, letting them do what they want. First, they can search the answers to the following questions; what time does he wake up? Does he care about his personal care? Is he spending time all day with his pyjamas? Does he change them? Does he collect his bed / room? Is he waking up? Are you waking up? Does he attend his classes? Does he deliver his homework on time? How is the relationship with digital devices, how many hours a day does he spend with phone / television / electronic games? In other words, every parent has to know the flow of the home life he / she carries out with his child. ”Afterwards, Hablemitoğlu explained that if there is an observation that will affect the child’s success and health in this flow, he first pointed out that he should respect the life flow of the child and then find a middle way.
Hablemitoğlu: We can continue the process more easily by loving our children, respecting their personal limits and demonstrating that we value them.
Hablemitoğlu said, “It is a period when it is not easy to communicate especially during adolescence. It is important to speak the situation in a simple way and to be sincere. By sorting the situations that need to be managed better, asking the child how to fix the situation or what he wants to do, helping him make plans, and offering support can be a solution. ”
Finally, Hablemitoğlu emphasized that instead of criticizing, accusing or judging children, if they knew that they were supported, understood, trusted and solved, it would be easier to motivate them, by loving our children, respecting their personal limits and demonstrating that we value them. Hablemitoğlu also said, “It will be possible to overcome the problems when we do not regard our children as our extensions and accept them as individuals, by showing our children that we love them with respect and without giving them a message of success.